Word is out that a stiff, firm, hard mattress is good for backaches. But common sense, and scientific reasoning, indicates otherwise. And certainly any sentence with stiff, firm and hard in it can’t be considered a general principle. And here is what my momma told me about the matter, "Son every spine is not the same!" Well she really didn't say that, but it fits nicely.
What the quirky spine comment means is this. A comfortable bed for someone’s back may not be so ‘comfortable’ for another person’s and vice versa. So alas! What to do when trying to decide whether to buy a stiff, firm, hard mattress or a soft, limp one? It is always advisable to test the mattress or a number of mattresses for that matter, BEFORE buying one.
So you are suggesting that I go lay on a mattress before buying it? Yes, that is what I am suggesting.
When you are out shopping, stop looking at the cute sales man/lady and notice the mattress. See the cover surrounding the foot of the bed? That is to protect the mattress from the dog poop and other dirty items on the bottom of your shoes. They want you to lay on the mattress. As I say in my tag line, I spend a lot of time laying on mattresses, I hope you do too. If that is the case you surely need to test drive, kick the tires, take it around the block before buying it.
You should, in fact, consider the beds box spring mattress as well, because it contributes to the overall hardness, limpness of the sleeping surface. Look, the bottom line is this: the surface should be comfortable for your own back.
If you and your spouse have different appetites for sushi well the menu lets you pick and eat different things. Same with mattresses, so consider each buying your own type of mattress. For instance, the zip and link type of beds, more on those in a different post. They let you to have two different bed types zipped together to form a good sized double bed. Take care however not to sleep on the wrong side of the bed! Because, if you like limp and soft then hard and firm just wont fit.